A couple of weeks ago, I watched a Sex and the City episode, in which Charlotte, in her never-ending quest to find true love, attends a seminar to teach her how to do just that.
She drags Carrie along, who scoffs at the whole thing. She thinks both the women who got sucked into attending and the seminar leader are sad and ridiculous.
To attract the right men, the crowd is counseled to use affirmations, which Carrie finds preposterous. These suckers actually think they're going to meet guys by reciting a string of useless words!
During the presentation, Charlotte raises her hand to ask the leader a question. She says something like, "I've been using my affirmations, but I still haven't found the right one."
Slightly annoyed, the leader says, you have to get out there, you have to love yourself, and so on.
Carrie grabs the mic from Charlotte and insists, "She is out there."
The leader says something, but Carrie drowns her out, "She is out there."
As far as Carrie's concerned, the seminar is a scam. There are probably no decent men left on the planet. The good ones are married, and the rest have issues.
Now, I enjoy watching Sex and the City. It's fun. It's light. It takes my mind off more serious things.
But it is not real life!
Carrie may discount the power of affirmations, but I didn't. If you aim to attract a wonderful man, you shouldn't, either.
Even better, they're free.
Indeed, they are one of the most important methods I used to attract the right man for me(who I've been happily married to for almost 13 years).
After years of dating losers, schmoozers, and No-Show Joes, I attracted a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man by using affirmations.
If you want to attract a man who is worthy of you, who will add to your happiness, then decide what qualities you want in a man and write an affirmation in the present tense:
I am happily married to (or in a relationship with) a ____, ____, _____, ______ man.
Write it ten times a day. Recite it in the shower. Repeat it to yourself as you're falling asleep at night.
Give it time. You could start attracting better men within weeks. If you've been hurt or have trouble trusting men, it will take more time.
But keep it up. Keep it to yourself. You'll find out that it's worth it.
By all means, keep watching Sex and the City. Just remember that it's fiction. Few people, men or women, actually behave like its characters in Manhattan or anywhere else.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams. Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com
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